Reality of Divorce

Becoming a divorced single mom has been one of the most challenging experiences I’ve ever faced. And I’m not just talking about finding a lawyer, dividing assets, or navigating the legal jargon, that in itself has its challenges.

What I mean is that going through a divorce sucks! When you add the complexities of becoming a single mom—sometimes even a single parent—it can feel overwhelming. No, it is overwhelming!

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At one point in my life, I thought divorce would be easy. I believed that if I ever had to make that decision, I would file for divorce, start my business, be happy, and move on.

Oh, was I wrong!

Before divorce, I felt confused and didn’t recognize myself; I felt broken. After divorce, I found myself confused about being confused. I truly didn’t know who I was, and I felt completely shattered.

Divorce isn’t just a single event. It’s not a legal document or a checkbox under "Marital Status" (why do they even ask?). Divorce is so much more. It’s a life-altering change, an identity that can attach itself to you if you’re not careful. It comes to shatter and destroy lives and dreams that you once created.

Twelve years after I said “I do,” I found myself needing to leave a broken marriage. But for the longest time, I couldn’t muster the strength to do it. My thoughts weren’t my own anymore. The person staring back at me in the mirror wasn’t me. Doubts, fear, and anxiety waited for the right moment to strike—and strike they did.

I had always considered myself strong, courageous, smart, and confident, but that woman I once knew felt like a distant memory.

Jobless, cash-less, fait-confused, scared, and empty, I made a decision. At that moment, divorce seemed like the only path to “freedom”—or so I thought.

My story begins after divorce. It’s the journey of a woman who lost herself in the daily roles of being a wife, mom, and homemaker, only to discover that true freedom would not come from divorce itself, but from the journey of finding herself again.

To my Solomoms, I know your pain. I understand what it feels like to be lost and empty, to be afraid, and to feel alone without someone to talk to. I get the void and grief of watching the person you once shared your life with move on. I know the emptiness of going to sleep alone, the strength you have to carry (and sometimes fake) for your kids, the sleepless nights worrying about how to provide, and the guilt that comes with making a decision that may have been wrong.

I’ve been there! But I also know the blessings that can come from this journey. I’ve found hope, felt the love and support from family and friends, and experienced growth as a woman, mother, and business owner. I have witnessed miracles, dreams coming true, and the beauty of deepening my relationship with my Father in heaven.

We can’t change our past, but we can change our future. You don’t have to stay in that place of hopelessness. There is freedom and life after divorce. I am living proof that you can do it!

I may not have my life in perfect order, and I still seek clarity in many areas, but one thing I know for sure is that I want to share. I want to share my faith, my hope, and who the God I serve is. I want to share my growth and mistakes, my successes and failures, my joys and sadness.

The reason I am passionate about sharing my life with you is so that you know you don’t have to walk this path alone. God is with you every step of the way and if you allow me to, I’d love to be part of your growth too.

I want to share not only personal insights but also the lessons I’ve learned in business and finances. I want to provide homeschooling tips, share how I’m raising two boys, and how I’m working toward the life of my dreams.

Please note I’m no English major or professional writer, but I write from the heart.

My hope is that you find a hint of hope or a seed of encouragement in this season of your life. If the only thing you take away from these letters or this site is a deeper belief in our Father in heaven who loves us, then it will all have been worth it.

I pray blessings over you and your family.

Until soon,

Aracely Chavez

Founder of Seven Streams CashFlow

Seven Streams CashFlow is more than a platform for wealth-building tools and youth entrepreneurship skills. It is a faith-driven movement and a thriving community where like-minded families grow, give, and build legacy together.

Seven Streams CashFlow was born out of a personal mission to rebuild life, finances, and legacy after divorce, not just for myself but with my two boys by my side. What started as a way to teach my kids about faith, money, and business turned into a powerful movement that equips families everywhere to do the same. Together we created more than a platform. We created a vision for the next generation.

Check out SevenStreamsCashFlow.com to find out who we are.